In my eperience, trust is just another word that people throw around without really thinking about the consequences. Just like "love" and "sorry". They're over used words which are slowly losing their meaning and potency.
Some people expect to be trusted no matter what. I find this an interesting concept, considering it's those people who demand trust from others who are the least likely to trust.
"Hey mate, I'll demand your trust but I won't trust you in return" doesn't really sit well with me. Maybe I'm just old.
Then there are the people who trust everyone and wonder why they get hurt because of it. It's unfortunate that there are people in the world who will use the naievity of those some against them. I feel like it's my responsibility to look after these people who are so easily duped to trust people whom they shouldn't. Yes, yes, I know I can't possibly mother the world, but I'll damn well try.
The third kind of people seem to distrust everyone. This is where I fit in. I have had my trust broken, destroyed, abandoned and crushed for 25 years. I've learnt over that time that it's easier not to trust anyone, that way they can't rip out my heart, hand it to me, and go on their merry way. Nope, I don't trust anyone.
Oh, I trust my teddy bear and Titan, but they aren't people so I guess they really don't count in this debate. However, I think Titan thinks he's human... That's another blog though.
Lately I've been bombarded with people asking me to trust them. They have very nearly demanded my trust from me. They couldn't understand why I baulked and ran away after they'd completed their demand.
I shall ask you, would you really trust someone who've only known a relatively short time? Would you trust this person if all you have known is bitter disappointment and crushing blows when people have betrayed your trust?
Would you trust them if they kept saying "I want you to trust me"?
I'm not sure about you, but having someone constantly ask me to trust them is the equivalent of saying Britney doesn't mime in concert, in Perth, in Australia.
It makes me wonder if they are genuine or if they are actually trying to hide something (perhaps Britney fan and secretly miming?) rather than just being honest.
Trust isn't something I hand out like lollies on Halloween or like ice cream on a hot summer's day. My trust can only be earned. It takes... TIME. Yes, that god-awful word that we all hate. Time.
A lot of my friends have to have been with me through a few ups and downs before i'll start to trust them. I mean, if they can't stick out the hard bits why would I trust them? They'll only leave me when I may (or may not) need them the most.
Yes, it's conjecture, a risk, a guess. But it's all of those things I'm not willing to gamble. Not when I have been to easily hurt in the past.
No thank you. You can keep your demands, you can keep your false trust. If you want my trust, you will earn it , just like everyone else.
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